January 23, 2012

Search 'N Find: Spot the Similarities

What's the best part about a vacation with girlfriends? Freedom. Now I know what you're thinking... freedom from children. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy a break from kids' activities, homework, and fighting. But I mean freedom to be myself.

During my getaway, my girlfriends and I shared everything from silly kid stories to our hopes and fears about what's around the corner to our childhoods. It was a writer's dream. I'm convinced everyone has a story to tell. As I sat around listening to people spin tales, I wanted to record it. There were interesting pieces I knew would tie together into an amazing piece of fiction.

What I love about women is that we can be different and appreciate each other. We can play board games, hike, watch Denver get their butts handed to them by the Patriots, drink wine, and laugh until our sides hurt. All in a matter of three hours.

One of the reasons Mom and I wrote Depression Cookies was to showcase how differently two women could view the same events and still come together in the end. There are paths in life, and choosing to focus on people's differences is the easy one.

Still focusing on the beginnings of a new year, I want to spend each day on this planet finding what I have in common with people, what can bring us together. Every time I meet a new person, I want to walk away with something we share.

I don't care where you come from or what you want out of life, there's something to tie you to any stranger on the street. I truly believe that. Spend enough time talking to anyone, and you can find a commonality.

I've lived in many states and different communities, and I have known women and men from all walks of life. But, at the end of the day, we are all trying to figure it out. We all have a purpose and a focus. Who knows what we could accomplish if we put our energies into coming together instead of tearing each other down.

As a writer, I find people fascinating. Trying to find what can bring the most unlikely characters together puts a huge grin on my face. Even the villains in a story are more interesting if they have ties to the heroes.

The longer we listen to one another - with real attention - the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions. Barbara Deming 

Why are differences so much easier to spot?


Natalie Hartford said...

Beautiful post Tia! I love how you said the world would be a much better place if spent time focused on how we are tied together rather than tearing each other down.
I couldn't agree more. I think it's a great reminder to each of us to try and connect on a deeper level with the people we come into contact with - to really get to know people with an open mind and an open heart!
Wonderful - thank you for sharing such a positive piece!

Tia Bach said...

Thank you so much, Natalie. I want this blog to be about life and its journey, because that's such a big part of who I am as a writer.

I hesitate to put these personal musings here sometimes, so I really appreciate when people take something away from them.