tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1994548621354458694.post3567796482926493315..comments2023-10-10T07:43:15.439-04:00Comments on Tia Bach, Author: Being Passed is Not Failure: ROW80Tia Bachhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18336780518125138789noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1994548621354458694.post-89999223103742574332013-09-20T19:03:09.779-04:002013-09-20T19:03:09.779-04:00As a recovering perfectionist, I can relate. From ...As a recovering perfectionist, I can relate. From an outsider's point of view, though, I can honestly say that you've made amazing progress. Congrats on the book release! Congrats on the run!<br /><br />And best wishes for the remainder of 2013. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1994548621354458694.post-80729594413225573612013-09-19T10:08:58.951-04:002013-09-19T10:08:58.951-04:00Excellent insight, Tia, and congrats on the sales!...Excellent insight, Tia, and congrats on the sales! I have to work at looking on the positive side too, but I've gotten a lot better at it than I used to be! If it's any comfort, I think you really can learn the habit. When negative thoughts creep up on you, battle 'em down with positive, just like you did. It doesn't always work, but with time, it works more and more, at least in my experience. :) <br /><br />Good luck! <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1994548621354458694.post-73262429834091544412013-09-19T08:43:33.931-04:002013-09-19T08:43:33.931-04:00Mine is simple: my checklist. If I can cross just ...Mine is simple: my checklist. If I can cross just <i>one</i> thing off that list each day, I feel accomplished. One rule! It never has housework or anything not having to do with writing or publishing in some way on it. Housework is a gimmie. That stuff has to be done no matter what. But, it can always wait until I'm done with work.<br /><br />Odd, isn't it? I just said, "work." Think about that for a moment. Your work is writing, editing, marketing, and publishing. Just because you don't leave the house every day, doesn't mean you don't work just as hard as someone who does. It probably means you work harder because you have no commute to interfere with your work day.<br /><br />Do you think people who go into an office every day (men or women) sit at their desks and worry about laundry, floors, dust, or dishes? Or do they focus on one task at a time that has to do with their job?<br /><br />Don't ever downplay what you do, and don't ever let someone else say anything about you being <i>able</i> to stay at home. If you went to an office, away from the house, every day and wrote, would that change the way they look at it? Would it change the way you look at it?<br /><br />Set your schedule, make that checklist, and do whatever it is until it's done.<br /><br />Besides, you've already succeeded so much. Look at how you just changed your own mindset. Being a mother and a writer, I'm "on" for around eighteen hours a day. It's freaking exhausting. There's no break from that. But, like you said, count what you did <i>right</i> every day. Success right there!<br /><br />If you need to feel successful at work, make that checklist and treat work as it deserves to be treated. It's your job. Your success can only be measured against what you accomplish in a day. Let the feeling of marking things off your to-do list rush over you. It's like nothing in the world.<br /><br />Why? Because no one pushed you to do it except you. That means everything.<br /><br />BTW, congrats on the awesome sales numbers! Feels good, huh? :)<br /><br />WRITE ON!Jo Michaelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02005237887461809640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1994548621354458694.post-43844872821882398482013-09-18T15:12:40.551-04:002013-09-18T15:12:40.551-04:00Oh I needed to read this Tia. I am as guilty as th...Oh I needed to read this Tia. I am as guilty as the next girl of putting myself down for what I haven't achieved rather than praising myself for what I have. Thanks for the reminder and well done on your successes! :) Shah Whartonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04997125261145672115noreply@blogger.com